people think u have it overflowing
people want it
you dont have to give it to anybody
they have to respect you- for your decision
caus they dont want you to leave them

you´re attractive
and they want you to use it for their good
they want you to use it all for themselves
they cannot care
for how you are after you leave their aura 
because they don´t get it
(example of my live: my boss almost fired me yesterday because i asked for vaccation and he goes yeah- how are you exhausted you only work 24 hours, if this doesnt work for you then we need to find an arrangement; now he is an emotional baby, a guilttripper and just ignorant- not everybody is that extreme)

but that doesnt mean you have to initiate or proof anything afterwards either.- you can just generate a life for you that makes you satisfied
and regardless of how doom and gloom your surrounding is changing when you stop pleasing them with your sacral
caus they still want it
all for them
they think they need it
obsessively

some-things are just to be accepted and brushed away- yes to their face- don´t care once they left
you can still deflect- with actions, words, looks, close proximity
you are a generator (if you are- sorry to those who aren´t)
you can unvelop shit- and still envelop shit and still let people go their way with you.
and now you are probably exhausted from reading this- so let me help you recharge a little too maybe.:

your responsibility is you- your energydiluting sacral
the world is energy- and you can respond to it
on many fractured or unfractured levels
it´s not only that 
energies can vary wildly
you just and only have the obligation to refill yourself- your lifes experience- your satisfaction/frustrationrate to fulfill your trajectory ofc- if that´s what you want

you are not a pressmachine
you do not have to sacrifice yourself 
you do not have to sacrifice other enrgies to this life to make it somewhat comfortable here.
you do not have to proof yourself to the incompetence of these surroundings or others
you are you- acknowledge that this is a good thing to acknowledge- for you found who you are.

now step two of recharging is 
not making their need you inevitability
just don´t 
they wanna run up against walls?
yes!
go!
let them do it until they ASK you for help- or until (in my 4/6 way can redirect them to somebody that knows) ....., in response!

you are not julia of hellraiser- levithian, you have no other god to atrribute and gain something other than -your-self-you-life
you dont have to watch them
you dont have to reach out for them
you dont have to think about them and neither be attached to them or their actions
regardless of how kicking and screaming they might appear to you- is this how you go out? okay- how beautiful to remember a satisfied life---? istn´t this thrilling?=D
i guess so =)

so no mental argument for intercepting with them any more unless correct (motivation or whatever resonated)
you have your energy for your life
and - thus following thru on not helping and rushing to other people you suddenly found detachment 
AND thus- didn´t let your energy go berserk in multiple directions that you didn´t care for.
bless your heart, you noticed.

arguably there would now be a step 3 but to me it often shows that it can be either or so i´mma call it the completion of recharging
so recharging is nurishing yourself. 
and this feels really nurishing to me to let all my wisdom go- to not have to ever be asked but see my smarts- to know if people would want to get it from me- they can sign on here and search and maybe find what they are looking for 
i guess its like the peace my mom experienced when i came to help her move and or- when my boyfriend had the surprisingly best summer ever or when my sibling learnt that depression is not the answer to life- and that letting go of surpressing the sacral is (imho that happened - at least i saw it move out of her body when we moved my mom as i passed by her, which curious if she remembers sitting in the vw crafters sideentry and me walking out of the appartememnts groundfloordoor and our uncle being in the back side of the van lifting some shit- curious to see her reaction if she has one:D/ ever gets to see this;))
so long story short, rejuvenating yourself and your access to that earthly wonderfull samsara energy can be reading a book, cooking, eating for that matter, going for a walk, sitting about and doing nothing/ staring at the sun :D ;) (blue ball! not black with rainbows streaming from it- we are alive- now), taking a break watching some series/movie, etc, inactionand action can both be it- i find the best moves for me are dancing when i feel tired- going to eat and then sleeping, as well as connecting to other people that i love and apreciate and wanna see their life develop/unfold with- like a livestream type of deal, so it can also be for you getting a new hobby- or hobbies, or just sitting with yourself for a change, meditating, etc... theres only os much i can write now, caus i´ve been overly caring for others developments as it was juicy and i see that now i am detaching from them and their stuff is helping me relationship with myself again more and clear and loving and soft and definite (without certainty)
be big, be small, trust in your life being the proof of your energy & valuability, ride stinky motorbikes,..

so again:
recognise your juicy godly (caus they believe you must be heaven sent to have this- instead look at themselves or something, they disregard uniqueness)..- self
you got this- you know who you are, you can decide for yourself.
2nd
 watch out for other peoples suckles for your energy
don´t try to walk on eggshells- deflect them, let them go to the bio-bin, right where eggshells have a use (for instance)
anyways .:D
your aura is un- or eveloping, sometimes both
3rd/totality/ our human form summa sumarium
recharge in the ways you like- that recharge you, learn, rest, sleep, follow your s&a with others, be an outer authority, use your cognition with you, be sexy, eat, touch, smell, live a little. and / or more. :D

ps: complete exhaustion can also be thoroughly helpfull at recharging your sacral- certain energies have wild differences in actions and energy use- acknowledge what you need do it all at the right time, your body/ sacral knows this

disclaimer: this is only from me being a sacral generator and having claimed my first vaccation, which my boss wanted to be rejected by force which he couldnt caus i was honest with awareness and communication

and yes- they wanna rule you- so don´t believe them, only your sacral authority.
you gotta experience the right energies for your life, move, adjust, dont give a fuck about their psycho mental & emotional abusestrategies. dont believe them when they say they know better (nn?- hell fuck yes you can get fucked with your "smartass")

thank you very much

about Detachment apathy and motivation

and a lot of people like myself will

talk about the value of Detachment right

we'll say that based on all these

spiritual Traditions that you should

detach from the world and as you detach

from stuff you'll be happier you'll be

more content you'll be more free and

sometimes even more productive hey there

thanks for watching and I'm glad these

videos have been helpful a lot of times

I'll read the comments and see people

asking well what do I actually do about

it which is such a great question and

unfortunately my experience has been

that the resources out there aren't

actually that good at helping people

create sustainable change which is why I

started HG in the first place he coaches

are trained on a curriculum that

integrates all of my understanding into

what is motivation what paralyzes Us and

how to create lasting behavioral change

so if you're ready to take the next step

he coaches are ready to build the life

that you want they helped people build

careers find relationships build

networks of friends discover what their

passions are and pursue their Hobbies so

if this sounds like something that you'd

be interested in check out the link in

the description below but a lot of times

that seems really confusing for people

right because if you really think about

it it's your attachment to things that

actually gets you motivated and moving

forward and a lot of people get confused

by this concept of Detachment versus

Detachment vs. Apathy

apathy because if I detach from stuff

doesn't that mean that I stop caring and

caring is the only thing that actually

keeps me going

and a lot of people who will listen to

to people talk about Detachment will

kind of conclude that okay I can't

afford to be detached because if I

become a detached then like I'm gonna

sit around and do nothing in fact this

sort of apathetic nihilistic mentally

checked out stuff is actually what I

struggle with every day what I struggle

with is to find motivation and so today

what we're going to do is explain a

little bit about the difference between

Detachment and apathy and in some ways

how they're almost completely Polar

Opposites and we'll talk a little bit

about the value and explain why

Detachment can be so good and most

importantly we're going to sort of

explain to you all the mechanism behind

which Detachment actually helps people

move forward

so in order to understand this we have

to start with an understanding of how we

normally motivate ourselves

so normally I have some kind of internal

drive and I have some sort of external

resistance so a good example of this is

that let's say I'm ambitious and I want

to accomplish a lot but I hate my job so

this is the sort of situation where I

don't want to work I don't really enjoy

work it's kind of like this barrier that

I have to overcome and what allows me to

overcome the barrier of the boringness

of work the toxicity of work the

diminishing returns that I get from

putting in effort what I have to do to

overcome the negative situation at work

is some amount of ambition and so some

of you all may sort of really wish that

you were more ambitious right because we

see people who are doing the sigma grind

set and they're like super super

ambitious and they will tolerate a ton

of pain and they're like yeah like you

know I'm going to be hardcore and like

yeah like life sucks because you've got

to like be super ambitious and so what

we sort of do is we have this internal

driver that we use to over come the hump

of resistance and then what happens is

there's this little like equation that

goes on in our head right work sucks so

much so that sort of creates a certain

amount of resistance and if I'm

ambitious enough I can overcome the hump

Overcome the hump of disliking work

of disliking work and that actually

leads me to action which then leads me

to benefits like success and money and

promotions and things like that

so this is sort of normally how we

motivate ourselves there's sort of this

internal struggle between the world

sucking out there and me ramping myself

up internally really juicing myself to

overcome those negatives another really

good example of this if we want to step

out outside of work for a second is

loneliness and anxiety

this is something that we deal with a

ton in this community I've helped a ton

of patients with this kind of stuff

where it's like okay so I'm socially

anxious and it's hard for me to make

friends when I go out and I meet people

like oh my God it's like so painful like

I look stupid I sound stupid everyone's

judging me all the time social media

definitely doesn't help that kind of

stuff so what happens is we kind of move

out into the world we get bludgeoned by

our social anxiety and then we retreat

and when we Retreat what starts to build

up a sense of loneliness and so there's

some research that shows that this is

the Loneliest generation in the history

Loneliest generation in the history of humanity

of humanity and so the loneliness builds

and builds and builds and builds and

builds until it overcomes the resistance

from the social anxiety right so here's

this barrier of social anxiety we try to

you know move out into the world and we

get swatted back and then the loneliness

Rises Rises Rises Rises and once the

loneliness surpasses the anxiety Then

we're so desperate that we can't afford

to be anxious anymore and then we start

moving forward

and so if we think a little bit about

what drives us forward in life it's this

thing over here right it's that level of

anxiety it's that feeling of loneliness

it's the desperation of always being

alone

and this is what we sort of think about

as caring because sometimes that stuff

like if that gets too toxic or too

harmful what we end up doing is becoming

apathetic right so like if I don't have

that driver so I have social anxiety

over here and the loneliness is building

up over here but if I become apathetic

if I mentally check out at work if I

sort of numb myself from the loneliness

that's really what apathy is I stop

caring about life and then I'm kind of

stuck

and so that's usually how we work right

because if we're apathetic we're not

doing anything and the only thing that

we can use to overcome that hump is

actually caring a lot the more I care

about my job the more that I care about

not being alone anymore the more I'm

actually going to motivate myself

forward

but this is not really like a healthy or

sustainable way to live life right in

the case of ambition it results in

Burnout and in the case of like you know

loneliness like it's it's so terrible I

mean hopefully you all don't know but

unfortunately chances are many of you do

that the struggle between loneliness

saying anxiety sucks like no matter how

you cut it even if the loneliness Rises

to the point where you move out into the

world it's still a painful experience

and so what a lot of people will think

is that okay like I can't afford to give

up my attachments I can't afford to give

up the loneliness I can't afford to give

up the the ambition because then how am

I going to do anything

and this is where Detachment enters the

picture

because Detachment is not about

detaching from the world it's actually

about detaching from yourself

so when we really think about what

Detachment is so like here's the world

down here and here's us up here

and we kind of sit in the middle and I

know that sounds kind of weird what do I

mean by that so we kind of sit over here

and what we think Detachment means that

we think it means removing ourselves

from the world right like I'm gonna stop

caring about stuff but if you really

look at it what Detachment truly means

is removal from our own ego so when we

remove ourselves from our ego that's

when we actually become detached now

what does that mean

so I'll give you all kind of a simple

example let's say I want to dance at a

party so I'm hearing the music the music

is fantastic I really really feel like

dancing

what is it that keeps me from dancing

because I can hear the music I want to

move maybe I don't know how to dance but

who the hell cares right generally

speaking people who like dancing to

music don't care if they know how to

dance or don't know how to dance you can

still dance to the music and enjoy it

but what is it that keeps you from

enjoying that moment in the world it's

not the world itself it's your own ego

it's this idea that oh my God if I start

dancing I will look stupid because I

don't know how to dance people will

think I'm an idiot people it's going to

be so embarrassing what will people

think so in that moment there you are

existing in the world and you have

something in the world that you want to

do that you really want to do that you

crave doing that you are jealous when

you see other people who are able to do

it and you're unable to do it and what

is it that keeps you from doing it it's

not actually the world it's not because

the music sucks the music is fantastic

what keeps you from doing it is actually

your attachment to your own ego so this

Your attachment to your own ego

is the thing that's really really

important to understand when we're

talking about detaching we're not moving

away from the world towards ourselves

we're actually moving away from

ourselves and actually towards the world

and this is why people who are eight are

detached are able to dance like there

ain't no tomorrow they're able to

actually live life to the fullest if

they go to karaoke they can just sing

karaoke and not worry about what other

people think imagine what would happen

if you went to a party and you didn't

care what other people thought because

if you really tunnel down into it what

is it that when we say care what other

people think what aspect of other

people's thoughts do you actually care

about you care about their opinion of

you their opinion of you is attached to

your ego in the way that you're viewed

right when a narcissistic person has a

big ego what does that mean that means

that everyone needs to think positively

about the narcissistic person

so this is the key thing to understand

that Detachment and apathy and we'll get

into this a little bit more in a second

or actually complete opposites and what

we're not removing ourselves from the

world what we're actually doing is

moving more into the world and removing

ourselves from ourselves

so what does that mean in terms of that

motivation kind of diagram that we were

thinking about right because here's my

ambition here's my feeling of loneliness

and then there's the resistance that I

encounter so that resistance is things

like oh my God what will people think or

I dislike my job and so if we look at

that resistance that keeps us from

moving forward in life that resistance

is usually composed of emotions and ego

and so what a Detachment actually does

is it lowers that resistance and the

beautiful thing is that once we lower

the resistance once there is no hump to

overcome then we can be driven forward

by all kinds of things we no longer need

ambition to act we no longer need that

loneliness to move out and engage with

people and that may sound a little bit

weird but let's like tunnel down into

that so what Detachment actually does is

lowers that resistance and how does it

do that because let's go back to the

social example I'm really lonely and I

have social anxiety so let's tunnel down

into okay what is social anxiety social

What is social anxiety?

anxiety is the concern of what other

people think about you right that's what

social anxiety is I'm worried what other

people are going to think now if I

stopped worrying what other people

thought that would be freeing that would

be amazing in the most important thing

is that if I stopped caring what other

people thought I don't need loneliness

to drive me to engage with other people

I can engage with other people through

all kinds of other things like hey that

person likes something that I like that

can drive me to form a connection with

them

what about the work scenario right

because in work but I genuinely hate the

work so this is where you got to stop

for a second and you really got to think

why do you hate the work so if you

really talk to people and we do this a

lot for example through career coaching

we worked with hundreds of people now

and we understand why people hate their

jobs a lot of times the reason that

people hate their jobs is because

they're not recognized in their jobs the

effort that they put in is not

appreciated that they have trouble

advocating for themselves and people are

playing politics

sometimes it's because the job is really

really really boring and even in those

cases why don't those people quit those

jobs well because they're afraid of the

consequences of quitting a job what if I

don't find another job what if people

won't hire me somewhere else so even if

you look at each of those scenarios

about why we hate the job what we

actually discover is that it's not the

job itself that actually keeps you stuck

it's all of your attachments related to

the job it's wanting to be appreciated

by your boss wanting to be recognized

wanting to be respected by your peers

which by the way is what leads you to

work extra hard to get that recognition

so any way you cut it what you really

discover is that attachment and ego are

really the things that kind of hold us

back in life and since we're so attached

to the opinions of others we have to

start to use these dirty fuels these

toxic motivators like ambition and

loneliness to actually move us forward

and then we get kind of stuck because we

believe that Detachment means getting

rid of our ambition or getting rid of

our loneliness whereas that's not

actually what we're saying at all we're

not saying that you're getting rid of

either of those what we're saying is

that Detachment lowers the resistance

Detachment lowers the resistance

and so hopefully this is kind of making

sense and I want you all to just think a

little bit about what would life be like

if there was no resistance to what you

wanted to do if you had a particular

desire and your ego didn't say hey

that's going to make you look stupid or

you weren't operating out of like fear

of consequences or things like that what

would your life actually be like and

this is where a lot of people think well

don't I need ambition or loneliness to

motivate me no because once the the

resistance drops down to zero then all

kinds of stuff can motivate you interest

in particular things curiosity all kinds

of stuff actually naturally starts

motivating you why aren't you motivated

Enough by those things right now because

curiosity is not enough to overcome the

ego

right you can be curious about learning

how to dance and hey like you go to a

party and you're like hey like let me

like learn how to dance right let me be

curious about this that's beautiful but

the problem is that that curiosity is

not enough to overcome the ego which is

why you don't live a life that is driven

by curiosity you live a life that's

driven by loneliness or ambition

and so this is the beauty of Detachment

because it lowers that resistance it

separates us from the ego and it

actually starts allowing us to live a

life that's based on things like

curiosity and interest as opposed to

like desperation loneliness or ambition

and so hopefully now you're kind of

thinking okay so like this sounds pretty

cool like lowering that resistance seems

pretty neat so then the question

naturally becomes how do we cultivate

detachment

and so now what we're going to talk

about is sanskrit phrase called vairagya

so virage is the Sanskrit word for

detachment and there are certain ways

that we cultivate Detachment and the

most important way that we cultivate

Detachment is actually through awareness

so this may sound kind of confusing

because in the west especially we have

this idea that the way to get better in

life is to do more stuff right like

people who succeed are doing more stuff

than people who don't if you want to get

ahead you have to network more you got

to play politics you got to update your

profile on LinkedIn the more you do the

more you get right and this is something

that a lot of like success influencers

and sigma grind set folks are like work

harder like have your hustle and have

your side hustle and have your side side

hustle in your mini side hustle and like

right you got to do more to get more

even at work right people will say like

it's the go-getters who get promoted and

so this is the really bizarre thing but

that's actually not how it works and if

you talk to people who are lonely or are

ambitious what you'll find is that they

exert a lot of effort right so even if

you're someone or you maybe have a

friend who's like stuck at home and

struggles with anxiety if you actually

ask that person how much effort are you

exerting

they may be like self-judgmental and

they'll say oh I don't do anything but

if you actually look at the struggle of

their day-to-day life it's actually

really hard right because even going out

Going out is like climbing a mountain

is like climbing a mountain these little

things that are easy for other people

require so much effort from the person

who is more attached who is more engaged

with their ego

so this is where it's kind of bizarre

but the source of iraqia the most

important source of Iraq is actually

awareness and what do we mean by that or

how does that work so this is really

simple where awareness precedes control

so if you've ever had dental work done

this is like the classic example that I

use and you're numbed you can't control

anything if you can't feel it you can't

control it right you can also look at

things like let's say people who are

alcoholic and in denial they are unaware

that there is a problem and without

awareness that there's a problem they

can't really fix it but if you talk to

someone who's an alcoholic and is like

going through divorce proceedings and

getting like written up at work the

amount of effort they're putting forward

is actually astronomically High every

single day that they live is a struggle

in a fight and your spouse is arguing

with you your kids are mad at you bosses

are writing you up there is so much

effort but there is no awareness and we

also know that based on evidence-based

treatment of alcoholism what is the

solution the solution is actually

Insight or awareness right and you we

kind of hear it in places like

Alcoholics Anonymous where they start

every meeting with awareness building hi

my name is all Oak and I am an alcoholic

and that is so foundational because once

you understand that they're once you

understand what's going on once you have

awareness of not just the problem but

the whole system then things actually

become effortless

and there's one really good example of

this which is like I don't know if y'all

play video games but like if you're good

at a video game people will look at you

and will say wow that is so amazing

you must work really hard to be good at

the the video game it looks so effortful

but when you're good at a video game you

actually don't expend a whole lot of

effort it's actually easy for you right

but the question is why is it easy for

you because you understand you

understand the mechanics of the game you

understand the meta of the game the more

that you understand the more easy things

become

and this is the key thing about

cultivating Detachment this is what the

Yogi's figured out is that if you want

to live an easy life that is also

happens to be like more productive then

you need to actually start with

awareness because as as long as we are

numb to stuff and as long as we don't

understand how things work it's we can

exert all the effort in the world and

it's going to yield very few returns

and so then the question becomes okay

how do we cultivate this awareness and

this is where there are a couple of

simple answers the first is meditation

and now some of y'all may be listening

to this and thinking okay so so are you

saying just meditate and like sort of

right but I don't want you all to just

meditate what I want you all to

understand is even if you're thinking

okay meditation doesn't work for me I've

tried it a bunch it doesn't help with

these problems you're missing the point

what I want you to understand is why

meditation works why we use meditation

as the key way to develop Detachment

because Yogi's tested all kinds of stuff

and what they settled on is meditation

and why is that it's because meditation

is the practice literally the practice

where we skill up our ability to be

Skill up our ability to be aware

aware so the first thing is you should

meditate and what does that meditation

mean it means just be aware of stuff

the second thing that I strongly

recommend that you do is spend time with

yourself

so if we're talking about awareness a

key thing that we really want to be

aware of is our reactions to stuff

because it is in our reactions to stuff

that we actually find our attachments so

if we go back to dancing at a party what

am I attached to it's going to manifest

in the way that I react when I'm at the

party so if I want to dance and the

music is fantastic and I really want to

dance and then notice the reaction that

you have within yourself and that

reaction will actually give you insight

into the nature of the attachment we

spend so much time trying to overcome

that reaction right we wrestle with

ourselves we try to overcome and Conquer

anxiety that we don't ever spend any

time just sitting there and observing it

and so that's the the problem is that

effort over that anxiety is not going to

ultimately lead to success what's

ultimately going to lead to success is

awareness and so notice your own

reactions to things and in in that sense

spend a little bit more time just with

yourself and the last thing that I want

to share with y'all is a little bit of

how you could be reacting to this video

so I want you all to notice that when I

say hey like spend some time like

noticing things notice your reaction to

things maybe try meditating what is your

reaction to this video right there's a

decent chance that there's a fair number

of y'all that are saying oh my God he's

saying just meditate I've tried that

before it won't work

so that's kind of interesting right so

if you've been following me this far or

thus far hopefully you kind of like kind

of buy what I'm selling in the sense

that we have these driving motivators we

have these resistances and we rely on

jacking up our motivation to overcome

the resistance and wouldn't it be

awesome if we no longer had that

resistance you're like yeah yeah yeah

yeah yeah yeah but once I start telling

you okay all you need to do is be aware

then what is your reaction to that it's

like no no no no that's not going to be

enough because I've tried so hard and it

hasn't worked exactly

so stop trying so hard notice your own

intrinsic reaction because chances are

that if you really tunnel down into that

and this is how you want to know how to

build awareness we're going to do it

right now tunnel down into that why are

you so skeptical that this is going to

work if you tunnel down into your

skepticism there's going to be emotion

there right there's going to be fear

what if it doesn't work or it's going to

be frustration and regret I've tried

this before and it didn't work

I don't want to waste my time there's

going to be all kinds of emotions

negative emotions tied to your

resistance

to doing what I'm asking you to do right

because that's what it is it's the

resistance and what is the resistance

it's emotion and anytime there's

negative motion there's ego and so now

we see in this moment

that if you try to push forward you'll

feel that resistance and it'll actually

it's actually telling you don't do it

don't do it don't do it and how do we

actually overcome that notice that

reaction we can do it right now notice

that reaction why is it that I'm so

resistant to trying this why is it that

I'm so resistant to meditating because

I've tried it and it didn't work I've

been burned I've wasted my time I can't

afford to waste time anymore and if you

have those kinds of thoughts what is

that those are attachments right you

can't afford it oh my God the only times

we can't afford things are when we're

attached to things I can't afford to set

boundaries with my boss I can't afford

to rock the boat in my relationship

when you can't afford to do something

that's an attachment

so I know it sounds kind of bizarre but

the truth of the matter is that

Detachment and apathy are actually

complete opposites and it's the fact

that we get confused about that that we

assume that those are the same thing

that we actually try not to cultivate

Detachment because we've started to

build a system of motivation that relies

on attachment to overcome our resistance

that's the only way we can move forward

but if you really want to be free of all

of that crap and be free from the only

motivator being this toxic motivator or

dirty fuel like ambition or loneliness

or desperation then you have to

cultivate Detachment and the beauty is

that cultivating Detachment from your

own ego allows you to actually live more

fully within the world